5 Things Parents Need to Know When Hiring a Nanny

By Michelle LaRowe

Hiring a nanny is one of the most important decisions you’ll make for your family — and it can feel overwhelming. As a seasoned nanny and parenting consultant, I have long guided parents through this process with wisdom, practicality, and a child-centered approach. Drawing on that same mindset, here are five essential things parents should know when bringing a nanny into their home.

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1. Define your family’s needs before you search
Too often, parents jump into hiring without first getting crystal-clear on what they need. Do you want a full-time or part-time nanny? What hours, duties, and expectations are non-negotiable? What role do they want the nanny to play in the family? What is your budget for the role? I often remind parents that if you don’t know what you’re looking for, how will the nanny be able to meet your needs? Write down your must-haves, nice-to-haves, and deal-breakers. This clarity will save you — and the candidates — time and frustration. Sometimes parents believe they can find the candidates than define the role, but successful nanny searches do not work that way. You have to have a clear understanding of what you job is and who is going to fit best in the role to recruit viable candidates. Families who don’t have a clear job description or understanding of their needs are a red flag for experienced nannies.

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2. A resume is not the whole story
Yes, a resume matters — but it is just one piece of the puzzle. A nanny’s temperament, values, and ability to fit into your family culture are just as critical. You’re not hiring a babysitter; you’re hiring a partner in your parenting. During interviews, go beyond the resume. You want to ensure you understand the candidate’s complete work history and her motivation for starting and ending each job. Ask situational questions about how the nanny has handled child related occurrences, observe how the nanny interacts with your children, and trust your instincts. Sometimes the most qualified person on paper isn’t the right fit for your family.

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3. Background checks and references are non-negotiable
No matter how warm or impressive a candidate seems, you must do your due diligence. That means conducting a formal background check, verifying identity and work eligibility, and calling references. Trust, but verify. You are entrusting someone with your children’s safety and well-being and you need to know who is going to be caring for your children. Gather as much information as possible so you can make an educated and informed hiring decision.

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4. Be clear about the job — and put it in writing
A common point of conflict between families and nannies is unclear expectations. Avoid this by creating a written work agreement that outlines duties, schedule, pay, benefits, vacation time, and any household rules or expectations. It is up to parents to understand their legal and tax responsibilities and to be compliant in those areas. Any nanny employment should be treated as professional employment — because it is. This protects both you and the nanny, ensures alignment, and builds a foundation of mutual respect.

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5. Invest in the relationship, not just the hire
Hiring a nanny is not a “set it and forget it” situation. Regular check-ins, honest communication, and appreciation go a long way. Schedule time for feedback, be open to hearing the nanny’s perspective, and show gratitude for the work they do. A thriving nanny-parent relationship benefits everyone — especially your children.

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Final Thoughts

It’s not just about finding a nanny — it’s about finding the right nanny for your family. Take your time, do your homework, and remember: when you hire thoughtfully and lead with respect, you’re setting up your family for peace of mind and your children for loving, stable care.

I’ve put together a Welcome Family Guide that helps parents understand what it takes to find, hire and keep the right nanny for their family. Welcome Family Guide 2025. If you are in Houston and need help with your nanny search, contact me for a complimentary consultation.

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